Ok so interesting night in the NBA. i don’t know if anyone else saw, but NBA referee Jenna Schroeder had a rough night. First she ejected a player and then had to rescind the ejection after video review, then gave a technical foul to Spurs player Victor Wembayama, and the 76ers shot a tech foul…only to have that rescinded as well, when further review show he didn’t flop…his foot was stepped on.
compounding matters, she later got into a tussle with 7′ big man Joel Emblid. Rough night to say the least, which leads me to ask the question, did she EARN her spot in the NBA, or is she taking the place of a man who worked his whole life to become a referee, is probably better than her, but lost it because she’s a woman.
I ask the question because it’s not so simple as, “well, the NBA HAS TO HIRE WOMEN, so too bad to him”
My father, after he left us, tried to become a firefighter in the St. Pete (FL) FD. He finished first in his exam (He was a very smart man), finished in the top couple in all the physical tests, and was the number one ranked candidate…but didn’t get a job, because SPFD had just instituted a minority priority hiring program, and a man of color who finished well below him in all categories, got the spot.
His life was never really the same. He became a severe alcoholic and died young. I wonder what his life would have been if he had gotten the position he earned, over the person who didn’t earn it, but was the right demographic. I probably would have never seen him again (we went years as children without seeing him…story for another day), but he probably would have lived a good life, had another family and been happy.
The point is, that Affirmative Action hiring is not victimless.
That was an interesting but sad story, Vic, about your dad. Most of us, unfortunately, have “what ifs” in our family histories that have had significant effects on how lives progressed or deteriorated. The key, in turning undeserved disappointments around is to apply the old adage of “making lemonade out of lemons.” It’s not easy, and doesn’t always work out, but is better than letting defeat leave too many tire treads on your expectations.
Christmas this year for me has been one of adjusting plans. Instead of spending the holidays in N CA at our rural home, we are staying in S CA., attending to loose ends, some lingering health issues, and avoiding the onslaught of N CA rain. Because of the last minute decision to stay here, we didn’t get a tree, which I now regret, as it’s such a fundamental part of enjoying the spirit of Christmas. Nonetheless, I brought out some favorite seasonal reminders like the three wise men, several Santa’s, angels, wreaths and colorful poinsettias, which have been good substitutions for what we normally do up North. Rather than Turkey, we are also simplifying the meal with salmon cakes, a big salad, biscuits and pecan pie.
….I want to add “Merry Christmas” wishes as well here. No matter how or where you spend the holidays may you experience a joyous, peaceful, meaningful time away from ordinary life events.
Vic – I say she earned her spot. I will try to look her up. I am sure she played through college. Up until now, 100% of the terrible refs I have seen have been men. She can’t be any worse than them.
Sadly, I think he would have still been a severe alcoholic. I have known lawyers – far more successful than me – who are alcoholics. Success did not kill their demons.
Bitter, here’s wishing you the peace and health, in the coming year, that may be eluding you. Hoping too that you’ll be able to release and let go some past events that appear to be haunting you.
Jan – Thank you but I will always feel responsible for my niece. I know it is common when somebody commits suicide for people to blame themselves. My niece loved to entertain the family with singing and playing the guitar. That void can’t be filled. I don’t know how my brother and his wife carry on.
A very common reaction, Bitter. Not that it is anywhere easy. I read once that grief is like an old tree struck by lightning years earlier; the tree keeps growing, but the scars are obvious. Keep growing, despite the pain. Peace for you is in my thoughts tonight.
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As an adult, I like Christmas Eve more than Christmas. However, as the years go by I am saddened by those who won’t be with me. No
Merry Christmas! Chicon will get his Happy Hanukkah tomorrow.
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I’ll take the Happy Hanukkah, but I am a Christmas guy…
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Ok. Well, I am a Christmas goy.
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“Who Rode the Camel?”
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Who shot the Sheriff?
Who let the dogs out?
These are the kinds of questions that plague mankind.
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Wishing all a joyous Christmas Eve, Christmas and holiday season.
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I did not shoot the sheriff but I might have shot the deputy.
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Wishing all my friends here a Merry Christmas and happy holidays!
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Other questions-
What’s love got to do with it?
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Merry Christmas, to all my fellow Hedgehoggers !!!!
Scooterboy, The 2024 Prediction Thread Winner !!!!!
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Merry Christmas, Phil. Hope you’re doing alright.
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Merry Christmas to you all. May you have a joyous day, and a wonderful Christmas eve.
I was fortunate to find a turkey this close to thanksgiving. The boys don’t like Ham, so its another Turkey for us on a holiday!!
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Merry Christmas to all. Remember, He is the Reason for the Season. History is His Story.
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Ok so interesting night in the NBA. i don’t know if anyone else saw, but NBA referee Jenna Schroeder had a rough night. First she ejected a player and then had to rescind the ejection after video review, then gave a technical foul to Spurs player Victor Wembayama, and the 76ers shot a tech foul…only to have that rescinded as well, when further review show he didn’t flop…his foot was stepped on.
compounding matters, she later got into a tussle with 7′ big man Joel Emblid. Rough night to say the least, which leads me to ask the question, did she EARN her spot in the NBA, or is she taking the place of a man who worked his whole life to become a referee, is probably better than her, but lost it because she’s a woman.
I ask the question because it’s not so simple as, “well, the NBA HAS TO HIRE WOMEN, so too bad to him”
My father, after he left us, tried to become a firefighter in the St. Pete (FL) FD. He finished first in his exam (He was a very smart man), finished in the top couple in all the physical tests, and was the number one ranked candidate…but didn’t get a job, because SPFD had just instituted a minority priority hiring program, and a man of color who finished well below him in all categories, got the spot.
His life was never really the same. He became a severe alcoholic and died young. I wonder what his life would have been if he had gotten the position he earned, over the person who didn’t earn it, but was the right demographic. I probably would have never seen him again (we went years as children without seeing him…story for another day), but he probably would have lived a good life, had another family and been happy.
The point is, that Affirmative Action hiring is not victimless.
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Merry Christmas to all, Joy to the world, Kamala-Grinch did not steal the country
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amen to that
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Great post, Vic. Merry Christmas to you and the boys.
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That was an interesting but sad story, Vic, about your dad. Most of us, unfortunately, have “what ifs” in our family histories that have had significant effects on how lives progressed or deteriorated. The key, in turning undeserved disappointments around is to apply the old adage of “making lemonade out of lemons.” It’s not easy, and doesn’t always work out, but is better than letting defeat leave too many tire treads on your expectations.
Christmas this year for me has been one of adjusting plans. Instead of spending the holidays in N CA at our rural home, we are staying in S CA., attending to loose ends, some lingering health issues, and avoiding the onslaught of N CA rain. Because of the last minute decision to stay here, we didn’t get a tree, which I now regret, as it’s such a fundamental part of enjoying the spirit of Christmas. Nonetheless, I brought out some favorite seasonal reminders like the three wise men, several Santa’s, angels, wreaths and colorful poinsettias, which have been good substitutions for what we normally do up North. Rather than Turkey, we are also simplifying the meal with salmon cakes, a big salad, biscuits and pecan pie.
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….I want to add “Merry Christmas” wishes as well here. No matter how or where you spend the holidays may you experience a joyous, peaceful, meaningful time away from ordinary life events.
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Vic – I say she earned her spot. I will try to look her up. I am sure she played through college. Up until now, 100% of the terrible refs I have seen have been men. She can’t be any worse than them.
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Sadly, I think he would have still been a severe alcoholic. I have known lawyers – far more successful than me – who are alcoholics. Success did not kill their demons.
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Jan – I hope you and your family find health and peace.
What if can be the worst words in any language. I am haunted every day by them.
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Bitter, here’s wishing you the peace and health, in the coming year, that may be eluding you. Hoping too that you’ll be able to release and let go some past events that appear to be haunting you.
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Jan – Thank you but I will always feel responsible for my niece. I know it is common when somebody commits suicide for people to blame themselves. My niece loved to entertain the family with singing and playing the guitar. That void can’t be filled. I don’t know how my brother and his wife carry on.
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Sorry for being a downer.
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Merry Christmas.
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A very common reaction, Bitter. Not that it is anywhere easy. I read once that grief is like an old tree struck by lightning years earlier; the tree keeps growing, but the scars are obvious. Keep growing, despite the pain. Peace for you is in my thoughts tonight.
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Anywhere near easy….
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Merry Christmas to you, too, Tina.
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I appreciate it.
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